Habits are like plants. Start small, find the right place for them, grow them over time.” - Dr. BJ Fogg
Lately, I’ve been studying joy. It’s a word with a very simple dictionary definition: “A feeling of great pleasure.” But life has taught me that joy is not simple at all - it’s beautifully complex and it’s pervasive or permeating – meaning once you have it, it influences and affects every area of your life.
Joy is an identity feature. It’s comprehensive, completing and eternal.
Of course, in North American Culture - when we think of ‘joy,’ we often subconsciously rush to connect it directly with happiness, which is so temporary. Happiness is directly tied to our situations and circumstances, and the second we have it, we face the reality that the moment will pass and the unknown next moment will soon come. This state of ongoing anxiety is the source of great stress and the subconscious bandit of peace.
Globally, people can’t help but dance as soon as the first beats of the hit song Happy by Pharrell begins, but most people don’t understand that the attitude that the song celebrates are actually evidences of an identity established in joy.
How can we cultivate habits that lead to an identity rooted in joy?
I believe by faith. Jesus talked about this directly when He told his disciples that “I have told you these things so that My joy may be in you and your joy may be complete. This is My commandment, that you love one another as I loved you” (John 15:11-12). How different would our lives become if we lived out of this kind of pure love that Jesus lived and taught? How different would our relationships be if we lived out of love and truth instead of out of fear of loss. How different would the world be if we found completion in love leading to courageous joy?
Cultivating the habits that lead to an identity rooted in joy is about authentic faith. Leading to appreciation of the sacredness of a moment.
A moment spent in prayer. A moment spent in gratitude for the beautiful gift of life and the person or persons that are sharing the moment with you. Even in conflict and in crucial conversations, * an identity rooted in joy will understand the deeper issues that led to the struggle. And understanding often leads to compassion, and compassion leads to love.
I pray that you will begin today – prayerfully cultivating the habits that lead to a life of joy. So that when trouble comes, you can be a conduit of hope for everyone involved, including yourself.
*Joseph Grenny – Crucial Conversations | Willow Creek 2014 Global Leadership Summit,https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCkHT_4CtNA