The Healing Journey

Life is messy. Many of us don’t get stories that fit into neat little boxes. The pat answers, prosperity promises and tired old clichés often don’t provide encouragement that leads to breakthrough and sustained change for good.

Tiny acts of sincere love and self-compassion can make all the the difference. This is a place to find encouragement and some of my favorite resources for the healing journey. Many of these resources have inspired breakthrough moments in recovery for me and I pray you will find renewed hope in the truth that the support that you need is available. You’re going to be ok. What you’re feeling right now in this moment won’t last forever and you are never alone. Please don’t give up, because you are so loved.

You can break free. You can heal, and no matter what you’ve survived, you can take your life back and it can be well with you soul. This is your Story. Please don't let an abuser write any more of their chapters on your back. - Juni Felix

In order to make it to the other side of your sorrow, you must decide to armor up, train hard, learn your gifts, trust your allies, and do the work. This is the courageous work of looking deep inside and discovering who you are apart from the situations and circumstances that left you broken hearted. Recovery from Complex Trauma is work, but You are Worth the Work.Do you know who you are apart from the situations and circumstances that left you brokenhearted? I know - recovery from complex trauma is work, but…You are Worth the Work!

Surprisingly simple yet delivering profound impact, You Are Worth the Work is based on cutting-edge scientific research into how human behavior and psychology works. Because 'Trauma is bad code,' you can systematically reverse engineer your sorrow and design the perfect Tiny Habits© to move you forward from trauma to faith, sustainable peace holistic well-being, and yes, even joy.

This is your story & it’s time to shine!

Trauma recovery has very little to do with praying the right prayers or performing all the right religious acts and performances. Trauma recovery has everything to do with your willingness to commit to a lifelong healing journey. Please take courage, slow down and commit, decide today to stop betraying yourself.

Recovery is difficult, yet always heroic work, and You are Worth the Work!

The truth is, we need you. No one can share the love of God the way you can and as Professor Charles Xavier would say, ‘Please, we need you to hope again.’

Trauma is bad code. The good news is that there’s always something you can do based on your current ability to take tiny but mighty steps toward victory over any abuse, betrayal, and injustice. Your situation is not your destiny and sorrow isn’t your permanent address. You can overcome and your life can become a beacon of light that helps others to find their way home.

The Gift of Sorrow

In order to make it to the other side of your sorrow, you have to make the decision to look deep inside and find out who you are apart from the situations and circumstances that left you broken hearted.

Will you accept courage to believe that this situation is not your destiny?

‘The Gift of Sorrow’ is a tiny, 4 chapter book offering hope, compassion and a simple strategy based on the science of human behavior toward peace and even joy!

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Additional Resources for The Healing Journey

"Just because someone stumbles and loses their way, it doesn't mean they're lost forever.

Sometimes we all need a little help...We need you to hope again" - Professor Charles Xavier (X-Men)

Recovery from Childhood Trauma

"The wise seek counsel."- Proverbs 11:14

Celebrate Recovery  -  Freedom from hurts, hang ups and harmful habits.

Global Childhood Trauma Recovery - Resources for understanding and healing.

1 in 6  - 1 in 6 men have survived unwanted childhood sexual trauma. You’re stronger than any abuse - you can do this! Please don’t give up. "Whatever the experience, whatever the reaction, we can help sort through the confusion—safely and anonymously."

You are not alone. Someone cares. Someone will listen and pray with you.

Please Breathe… deep breath in through the nose, hold for 4 seconds, slowly exhale from the mouth (4 seconds) hold again, deep breath in through the nose…(4 seconds) exhale slowly. Try for 3, you can do this. Be Brave…choose Hope.

Somebody Cares 24/7 Prayer line - 1-855-459-2273 (Call for prayer and guidance) also, 1-888-Need-Him.

JesusCares.com - Chat with someone 24/7, also Need Him ‘Regardless of what others say about you, Jesus loves you deeply and He hurts when you hurt. Your journey may be more difficult than you thought and more lonely than it should be but you are not alone. Your past doesn’t have to define your future. God gives second chances.​ Even when people turn their back on you, God will never leave you.’

To Write Love on Her Arms - To Write Love on Her Arms is a non-profit movement dedicated to presenting hope and finding help for people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide. TWLOHA exists to encourage, inform, inspire, and also to invest directly in treatment and recovery.

Anthem of Hope - Chat with a trained HopeCoach about any issue you are facing. Our chat is is safe, private, and free. Sharing your pain is the first step in finding help. We believe in you, and we're here to help you any way we can. 

RELATIONSHIPS

"Love does no harm. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law" - Romans 13:10

The only wisdom that matters is the kind that equips us with tools for how to love and relate to others in a way that builds up and doesn’t tear down. Even if your current relationships seem irreparably damaged, there is always hope!  

Here are some of my favorite resources that helped me in my healing journey for recovery from relational abuse and trauma.

Grief Support

Women at the Well

If you have a family member or loved one who has been diagnosed with trauma-induced Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID), or your loved one comes from such a traumatized background that you struggle to understand how to continue to show love to one who has no idea how to understand and receive it, you are not alone.

In matters of dissociation, unfortunately, there are very few faith-based resources that are helpful for understanding what to do after a loved one receives this very complicated and heartbreaking diagnosis. I believe God led you here to encourage you with the truth: Yes, there are other women who understand. If you have a heart for helping to restore the shattered, Thank you! Your ministry to the deeply wounded is not easy, and it is so important.

If you are one of those shattered people who is looking for help as you pick up the pieces of your heart, I pray that these resources will be an encouragement to you on your journey, however, it would be best for you to read it with your PTSD, DID professionally trained counselor. Here are some of the most helpful resources I’ve found for understanding and helping your loved one, and for taking good care of yourself along the way.

Trauma Coping System - Dissociation as a response to intolerable conflict

“Dissociation is a God-made tool given those who are overwhelmed with pain (emotional or physical). When that overwhelm happens in childhood, a Trauma Coping System may develop. This system assists the child in coping when trauma is happening. Once the child is out of the traumatic situation, or when they reach adulthood, the Trauma Coping System can make life difficult. They may experience confusing feelings, racing thoughts, anxiety, or depression. Learn the basics of the Trauma Coping System, as well as the basic elements needed for complete healing and restoration.” - Melissa Finger, M.S